Monday, July 10, 2006
together
why do people get into the relationships they do? a guy i kno is dating a much older woman (10+ years). he's quite inexperienced in women. and from her background, i'd say she's probably more experienced than most. but appt they're together. now, i can understand why he's wit her. he doesn't really kno any better. and she's his 'type' anyway. but why is a mid 30yo dating a rather immature mid 20yo? maybe i'm just cynical but i'm thinking she wants something of him...
another guy i kno is in a relationship wit a girl who is nearly 5 years younger than him. me and other friends have been observing thier interactions wit each other and we've come to the conclusion that he doesn't even like her anymore. and yet they're still together too.
yet another guy i kno is appt breaking up wit his girlfriend of about 10 months. they've been living together since january i think. and they had even seriously talked about eloping. but she's sorta crazy. and she has put him thru all sorts of hell. however, he's talked about ending things before, to no avail, but hopefully this time he'll get out of it.
but in good news, another friend of mine has recently gotten back together wit a girl he previously dated. unfortunately, before, their relationship had ended rather badly, but they've decided to give it another go. so, good luck homie! :)
btw, did you ever notice that the word 'together' is actually 'to get her'? interesting, no?
Sunday, July 9, 2006
elderly
oh dear. my back has been hurting the last couple days. i dunno from wat tho. and i can't remember when it started hurting. but it was at least friday night. then yesterday after i came back from la / monterey park i helped my dad wit some yard work. and even tho my back was hurting then i felt bad for him, you kno? so i helped out for the next couple hours. after that i took a tylenol before i went out wit the girls. and my back was hurting quite a bit then, but really only when i moved. then this morning i went to db. the first hour i just called so it wasn't so bad. but then i tried rowing for the next hour and i seriously just couldn't. and now. i'm f*cked. it just hurts. even as i'm sitting still. nice huh? and like... it helps when i massage or punch it. but i think maybe i've done that so much that now i'm also maybe a little bruised there? cause now whenever i put my hand there, it hurts. ...lol. so uh... yeah. i hope it goes away before next sunday. cause geez, we only have like two practices left before competition. oish.
hyper
+---------------- Bizarre Coffee Facts --------------------+
Advertisements for coffee in London in 1657 claimed that the beverage was a cure for scurvy, gout and other ills.
In Italy, espresso is considered so essential to daily life that the price is regulated by the government.
In the 16th century, Turkish women could divorce their husbands if the man failed to keep his family's pot filled with coffee.
Large doses of coffee can be lethal. Ten grams, or 100 cups over 4 hours, can kill the average human.
Milk as an additive to coffee became popular in the 1680's, when a French physician recommended that cafe au lait be used for medicinal purposes.
Raw coffee beans, soaked in water and spices, are chewed like candy in many parts of Africa.
The average cup of coffee contains more than 1000 different chemical components, none of which is tasted in isolation but only as part of the overall flavor.
Until the 18th century coffee was almost always boiled.
When a coffee seed is planted, it takes five years to yield consumable fruit.
Advertisements for coffee in London in 1657 claimed that the beverage was a cure for scurvy, gout and other ills.
In Italy, espresso is considered so essential to daily life that the price is regulated by the government.
In the 16th century, Turkish women could divorce their husbands if the man failed to keep his family's pot filled with coffee.
Large doses of coffee can be lethal. Ten grams, or 100 cups over 4 hours, can kill the average human.
Milk as an additive to coffee became popular in the 1680's, when a French physician recommended that cafe au lait be used for medicinal purposes.
Raw coffee beans, soaked in water and spices, are chewed like candy in many parts of Africa.
The average cup of coffee contains more than 1000 different chemical components, none of which is tasted in isolation but only as part of the overall flavor.
Until the 18th century coffee was almost always boiled.
When a coffee seed is planted, it takes five years to yield consumable fruit.
Friday, July 7, 2006
obedience school
"How To Train A Woman" by Maureen Dowd
The New York Times, July 5, 2006
...Amy Sutherland struck a chord with her recent Times essay -- still high on the most e-mailed list -- about how she successfully applied the techniques of exotic animal trainers to change some annoying traits of her husband, Scott...
''The central lesson I learned from exotic animal trainers is that I should reward behavior I like and ignore behavior I don't,'' she wrote. ''After all, you don't get a sea lion to balance a ball on the end of its nose by nagging.''
She began using ''approximations,'' which means rewarding the small steps toward learning a whole new behavior. ''With the baboon you first reward a hop, then a bigger hop, then an even bigger hop,'' she wrote. ''With Scott the husband, I began to praise every small act every time: if he drove just a mile an hour slower, tossed one pair of shorts into the hamper, or was on time for anything.''
She also learned the concept of ''incompatible behavior,'' training an animal in a new behavior that would make the annoying behavior impossible. To keep Scott from crowding her while she cooked, she set a bowl of chips and salsa across the room...
Helen Fisher, a Rutgers anthropologist and the author of ''Why We Love: The Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love,'' speculated that it might be easier for men to train women because ''women are better at reading the emotions in your voice, better at seeing things in their peripheral vision, better at seeing in the dark. So just the man's tone of voice as opposed to even the words could be rewarding.''
Both sexes would be better off following the lead of animal trainers and ignoring irritating bad behavior.
''Women are more verbal,'' she said. ''But that doesn't mean that men aren't manipulative. I think both sexes are busy manipulating each other. Women will nag and men will tease. There's a kind of teasing that's just cloaked nagging.''
She observed that it may be hard for men to use compliments to alter female behavior because women give and get so many polite or insincere compliments from other women that they're immune to flattering words.
''Men and women tend to get intimacy differently,'' she explained. ''Women get intimacy from face-to-face contact. We do what we call the anchoring gaze. It comes from millions of years of holding your baby in front of your face. Men tend to get intimacy by doing things side by side, because for millions of years they faced their enemy but sat side by side with their friends.
'If I were a man rewarding a woman, I'd do it in the format women find intimate, which is face to face. I'd go straight up to her, while she was doing the dishes, I'd turn her around face to face, and I'd say: 'Thanks so much for being on time last night. It meant a lot to me.' '' (You might also tell her that you will not only finish the dishes, but that you want to finish the dishes.)
Training your mate may be essential in an era when everybody is more connected and yet less. A new study in the American Sociological Review suggests that Americans may be getting lonelier and more isolated, with people relying more on family and making fewer close friends and confidants from clubs and the neighborhood than they did 20 years ago. So if they lose a spouse or partner, their whole social safety net can disintegrate...
The New York Times, July 5, 2006
...Amy Sutherland struck a chord with her recent Times essay -- still high on the most e-mailed list -- about how she successfully applied the techniques of exotic animal trainers to change some annoying traits of her husband, Scott...
''The central lesson I learned from exotic animal trainers is that I should reward behavior I like and ignore behavior I don't,'' she wrote. ''After all, you don't get a sea lion to balance a ball on the end of its nose by nagging.''
She began using ''approximations,'' which means rewarding the small steps toward learning a whole new behavior. ''With the baboon you first reward a hop, then a bigger hop, then an even bigger hop,'' she wrote. ''With Scott the husband, I began to praise every small act every time: if he drove just a mile an hour slower, tossed one pair of shorts into the hamper, or was on time for anything.''
She also learned the concept of ''incompatible behavior,'' training an animal in a new behavior that would make the annoying behavior impossible. To keep Scott from crowding her while she cooked, she set a bowl of chips and salsa across the room...
Helen Fisher, a Rutgers anthropologist and the author of ''Why We Love: The Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love,'' speculated that it might be easier for men to train women because ''women are better at reading the emotions in your voice, better at seeing things in their peripheral vision, better at seeing in the dark. So just the man's tone of voice as opposed to even the words could be rewarding.''
Both sexes would be better off following the lead of animal trainers and ignoring irritating bad behavior.
''Women are more verbal,'' she said. ''But that doesn't mean that men aren't manipulative. I think both sexes are busy manipulating each other. Women will nag and men will tease. There's a kind of teasing that's just cloaked nagging.''
She observed that it may be hard for men to use compliments to alter female behavior because women give and get so many polite or insincere compliments from other women that they're immune to flattering words.
''Men and women tend to get intimacy differently,'' she explained. ''Women get intimacy from face-to-face contact. We do what we call the anchoring gaze. It comes from millions of years of holding your baby in front of your face. Men tend to get intimacy by doing things side by side, because for millions of years they faced their enemy but sat side by side with their friends.
'If I were a man rewarding a woman, I'd do it in the format women find intimate, which is face to face. I'd go straight up to her, while she was doing the dishes, I'd turn her around face to face, and I'd say: 'Thanks so much for being on time last night. It meant a lot to me.' '' (You might also tell her that you will not only finish the dishes, but that you want to finish the dishes.)
Training your mate may be essential in an era when everybody is more connected and yet less. A new study in the American Sociological Review suggests that Americans may be getting lonelier and more isolated, with people relying more on family and making fewer close friends and confidants from clubs and the neighborhood than they did 20 years ago. So if they lose a spouse or partner, their whole social safety net can disintegrate...
celebs
celebdaq. it's a little bit like trading stocks and a little fantasy league. weird huh? the amount of time people have on their hands these days...
and david hasselhoff must be really stupid. or really really tall. cause otherwise i just can't explain how he manged to to hit a chandelier while showering...
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