the other shoe

things are really good. i wonder sometimes how much is him, and how much is us. but i also wonder (because i'm me) of when things won't be good. i wouldn't say that i'm looking forward to our first fight, but i am definitely curious how it'll go. when, of course, and what it'll be about. what it'll reveal about us individually, and us together. his ex said he had anger issues. i haven't seen any of that. possibly not yet, anyway. he says that he gets loud when he gets mad. but besides that, he needs his space. i'm like that too, with the space. not so much with the volume, tho i have certainly yelled back before...

i do believe that certain personality traits can be amplified in the presence of others. i don't think we have that tho. we seem to be alike where we should be, and different where we should be also. that's not to say that we're perfect for each other! i mean, honestly, we don't know each other that well yet. we haven't particularly been tested yet. well, the whole thing with his ex was definitely a test for me. i can't say that i loved the way he handled it but then, i might've done it that way too. ...not the "warning text" that's for sure, but possibly the stuff afterwards. anyway, that was a while ago. i marvel sometimes how quickly the 6 months have passed. i sometimes feel like i've known him for longer. i guess that's what happens when you see each other as often as we do? also, i'm getting older, and time seems to speed up faster and faster as you age. which is so unfair, lol.

anyway, no real point to this post, only to say that i wonder when we'll fight. and if only because i feel like you can get to really know someone when they're angry. you're on your best behavior for much of the beginning, but when you're mad, it's so easy to let that facade go. so, how far will it go?

change

change will lead to insight far more often than insight will lead to change - Milton H. Erickson

I've had this quotation written on my mirror for a few months now and, jeebus, its truth strikes me even now. in thinking back on all the life changes in the last couple years... i can't believe how much I've learned about myself and about others, not just those I'm close to, but about people in general.

and to think how often we are scared of change!

what happened to Monday?

what happened to monday?

oy. such interesting questions this movie brings up!
1. what will happen when the world runs out of resources to support our human population? what lengths should we go to prevent that (or should we at all)?
2. is the collective survival of our species more important than an individual's survival? how about many individuals?
3. is there a right to life? is there a lesser or greater right to life?
4. how far would you go for your children?
5. at what point do your parents' choices for your life become your own?
and the age old 6. nature vs. nurture?