what's your #?

"what's your number?" is a movie that "...follows Ally (Anna Faris) who after reading a magazine article states 'In America 97% of women who have had 20 or more lovers can’t find a husband.' This inevitably leads the character (who of course is at number 19) to believe she’s going to be forever alone. Thus beginning a wild search for the best 'ex' of her life." [source]

20 does sound like kind of a lot. but is it really? let's say you started having sex at 18yo and you're now 30yo. that means you had over 10 years to sleep with 20 people, that's less than 2 people a year. that's not much at all! i think when you put it into those terms, average in a year, it sounds like waaaay less. i think a total number can definitely be misleading, so we should maybe start thinking about averages. ...to a point.

i think your average number should get smaller as you get older. if you've been having sex for 70 years and your number is 70, that's still pretty gross; i don't care that it averages out to only one person a year! i think anyone's cap should be under 50, which i admit is a completely arbitrary number. i'd probably be able to give a better "defined" number if i knew when people stopped having sex. do most 85yo still have sex? i have no idea! (and there seems to be no consensus online, tho you might be interested to learn that the average age of americans to start having sex is 17)

btw, i don't think it matters if you're male or female. i'm going to judge you equally if you've slept with 40 people (tho why you'd even bother counting past, like, single digits is beyond me [single digits only because they're much easier to remember])