name of the game

ive been watching bachelor pad. i know, i know... anyway, the other night they played the "nearly wed game", which the "newlywed game" except that none of them are married (btw, the video is pretty good, if you've got 14mins to watch it).

one of the questions was "how many dates does your partner need before 'make whoopie'?" answers: 5, 22, 3, 7, 14. (btw, the girl who said 3 then said "i'm kind of a slut". the girl who said 14 said it was only after 32 dates that she slept with her game partner [her ex-fiance]. also, the girl who said 7 has to be discounted because they were playing to a strategy, not just the game.)

i think some of these answers are CRAZY. i mean, 22? why that number specifically?! and the girl who said it was after 32 dates that she slept with her guy is also nuts. 1. you counted? 2. you remembered?!

okay, back to me (ha!). how many dates? i must be super slutty because, well, i'd probably sleep with you on the first date. i think a lot of people don't have sex early on because of the "respect" factor. but it goes both ways, doesn't it? cause, hey, you had sex on the first date too! so if you're going to un-respect me for doing the same thing you are, i don't particularly care cause you're a massive hypocrite and we're not going to be in much contact after this date, in which case, i should feel free to have fun and have sex.

honestly, i think having a guideline number is okay, if it's an easy to keep track of number (single digits). i think a better gauge would be how you feel about each other, where you are in the relationship, or other non-arbitrary markers.

there are too many random rules and games being played in relationships: you can't call before 3 days, man always pays no matter what, you can't say "i love you" first, you can't sex till after 22 dates, what the bloody hell? if you like someone, call them! if you love someone, tell them! if you want to have sex, do it!

part of why relationships are so much fun are because of the excitement of not knowing exactly what's going to happen. if you schedule and regulate stuff that takes a lot of the spontaneity out. and i think, more importantly, the whole thing just seems less genuine. in which case, if it even worth it? not for me anyway.