boys will be

remember all that craziness last halloween when a set of parents let their 5-year-old son dress as daphne from the scooby-doo? well, it's basically happened again. but this time, it wasn't halloween, so people are even more pissed. there was a photo on the j. crew website that showed a designer with her young son. the problem? she had painted his toe nails hot pink.

i don't have a problem with this. i think a lot of the stuff girls do is more fun. i mean, seriously. look at those little fluffy pink dresses girls get to wear, as opposed to the little suits boys wear. i hate pink, i generally don't like fluff or flowers, and i rarely wear dresses or skirts. yet i totally think much of little girl clothes are way more fun. we just have so many more options when it comes to clothing. so who can blame little boys when they want to dress as girls? (for instance, princess boy dyson) girls can wear every color invented, but boys can't. we don't allow them most pastels and even some bright colors are out (no magenta).

i brought up this subject with my boyfriend and asked him what he would do if our son wanted to wear pink nail polish. he said he wouldn't let him. "pink is for girls." so, of course, i asked him what if our son wanted to wear blue nail polish? "nail polish is for girls!" lol. i wouldn't have a problem if our son wanted to paint his nails. but, honestly, i would be a little worried if our son wanted to dress as a girl. i would, however, let him. and it's not that i worry that my 5-year-old son will "become" gay or even a transexual or transvestite. i just wouldn't want the other kids to tease him. i think even the most gay-progressive parents don't prefer their children to be gay, if only because it means that life will be harder on them. i want my kids to be happy. and i worry that since society in general doesn't approve of homosexuality, my gay kid will face more discrimination. worse yet, they might become the target of bullies and homophobes. people get killed because they're gay. no one gets killed simply because they're straight.

getting back to the subject, i would want to raise my kids as gender neutral as possible. i would buy my son dolls, i would also play catch with my daughter. it's probably because i'm not very feminine myself, but i will not buy my baby daughter pink. and i will cringe if she asks for an easy-bake oven (probably because i don't cook). but do you see what i mean? i want my kid to be happy, but if she wants to me to buy her a pink dress, i will hesitate, tho i'd do it, cause, hey what do i care if my kid wants to wear something s/he feels pretty in? gah, it's so hard raising kids, isn't it? knowing how much control to exert over them.