hawaii - thoughts

as i mentioned in my first post about hawaii, this trip was... not without its difficulties. i'm not going to go into too much detail here. g doesn't read my blog, but mostly, there's really no point on dwelling on the less happy times. i was having issues before we left though, but i honestly thought that once we got to hawaii, things would be different. at one point before we left my dad said "this is why friends shouldn't travel together. they don't come back as friends." lol. our trip was not that bad. not even close. we're still good friends; we just need some time apart. but this will be our last trip together with just the two of us.

part of my problem is that i don't like to say anything when something first goes wrong. it's because i think that people mess up, they have bad days and act poorly. it's not a big deal. but then, if it becomes clear that it's not a "bad day" and that's just who they are, i focus on other things, like "we've only got three days left." i generally don't like to tell people how they should act. i'm kind of a fix it yourself type person. i generally try to deal with things myself, and expect you to also. this often backfires. haha!

the one example from the trip i'll actually write about: she doesn't have much water clothes and i do (rash guards and board shorts). luckily, we're about the same size so i lent her some of my clothes. after surfing, we took off some of our wet clothes and put them in a plastic bag. when we got back to the hotel i emptied the bag into the tub and showered first. when i came out i asked her to remind me to rinse out the stuff and hang it up when she was done showering. she forgot to remind me later. but when i did remember, i went into the bathroom and saw her bikini hung up on the shower rod. just her bikini. not the rashguard or boardshorts that i lent her. and of course none of the stuff i wore. this is annoying. i understand that i own the clothing. but you wore it. you should have the decency to rinse out the stuff you borrowed from me. the most annoying this is that this happened the next time she borrowed my rashguard/boardshorts as well. so she didn't just forget. this is her.

that story is simply the most telling example of some of the stuff i felt like i had to put up with. it was not an easy trip. the last few days i tried to get some alone time from her. and on our last full day we started bickering. in any case, it didn't get so bad that we were struggling to get thru the rest of the time together. we had a lot of great times, even at the end. but... oh man. they say you don't know someone until you live or travel with them. so true! this week-long trip really highlighted some of the ways we just do not get along.

in any case, i'm thankful for the time we had together. hawaii was beautiful. more beautiful than i had expected, honestly. i think that also we were both happy the trip was ending, we could've used one more day to finish up a few things on the island. but i think we did a lot. enough so that i don't feel like i need to go back to oahu, anyway. another island, another time. hopefully with reepal :)