love is...

allen shawn - wish i could be there: notes from a phobic life

"...i discovered that the power of sex didn't entirely depend on what 'happened.' the smallest sexual encounter could carry the charge of the most complete one (every jealous lover knows the truth of this from the other side). sex has to do with giving and receiving appreciation, with seeing and knowing, being seen and known. it is no coincidence that in the bible to have intercourse is 'to know'... beneath our clothes, beneath our thoughts, we are animals.

"love teaches us to accept the human body. it is the antidote to the horror of it, conveyed by ernest becker, in the denial of death, when he speaks of the realization that we are nothing but a sack of flesh with holes in it. love for your infant children draws you to them and makes you relish feeding them, holding them, and changing their diapers. love is the suspension of disgust. it helps us bond with ourselves and with each other. at the same time, it connect with all the other big things; it can't be taken lightly. love helps us habituate to our arbitrariness."

"love is the suspension of disgust." must be, or i could never stand being around rip and his constant fartiness. =\