"how to talk to little girls"
i think this is a really thought-provoking article. i'm a big believer in nurture (vs nature) and i can absolutely see how consistently getting complimented on looks at such a young age would cause little girls to strive to be more physically attractive. it would be great if we could compliment both their beauty and brains but since most of us aren't really looking to connect with the child and are only looking for something to say so as to not appear rude, it's best to not focus on her outward appearance (although it is often the easiest thing to say), as there are many physical things one can't control anyway. compliments should be based on merit rather than luck.
i'm really glad bloom offers a suggestion for what to actually say. of course, i don't like kids, so i wouldn't want to carry on an extended conversation with them, and complimenting their looks is an easy way to be friendly but not involved. i wonder what might be a better passing comment?
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I just had this thought about how important happiness is.
"Even bright, successful college women say they'd rather be hot than smart."
Does this mean the bright, successful college women would trade their brain for happiness?
I'm not encouraging disorders, but if you setup a kid to grow up being anti-conform-itory then dont they most likely end up being outcasts and live a less happy childhood/early life? Then graduate college all bright and unhappy?
as someone who might be slightly above average in both looks and intelligence (...i know that sounds egotistical, but i'm just being honest) sometimes i do wish i were stupider; which is crazy cause i'm not all that bright! but i worry about a ton of stuff that stupid (or maybe just vapid) people don't worry about: current events, environmental issues, philosophical arguments, feminism, civil rights...
maybe if i were similar to what seems like the majority of others, i would focus more on my own future rather than the world in general, and just be happy. ignorance is bliss, as they say.
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