"The prefect man -- for any woman -- is the man who loves her constantly and fucks her frequently, passionately, and well; who adores and admires her; is at once reliable and exciting; and earthly Adonis and a heavenly father figure; a beautiful son, a steady daddy; a wild-eyed Bacchic lover and a calm, sober, but still funny friend. Can you find all these attributes in one man? Not bloody likely! And if you find them, will they endure for all the various passages of your life? Not bloody likely.
"Given this problem, what's a woman to do? Having two or three men simultaneously would seem to solve this problem -- if it didn't create so many logistical snafus... Because the fact of the matter is that nobody can spend 100 percent of her time getting laid, arranging to get laid, administering TLC to a variety of men with a variety of needs. And what woman worth her salt wants to be involved with a man whose needs she care nothing about?"
"There's the problem in its essence: Putting together one perfect man out of two, three, or four slightly imperfect candidates is just too time-consuming and tiring. We are finally driven to monogamy not by morality but by exhaustion."
Saturday, July 25, 2009
Friday, July 24, 2009
singular
lately i've been feeling rather lonely. last week and a bit seems like i'm not even dating reep anymore. he doesn't normally call (not even when i asked him to, once. which really sucked cause i had texted him to call me because i missed him. which i don't normally say). and i find out what he's doing thru his twitter. sad, eh? virtual stalking your own boyfriend... chang's gone on vacay too, which makes matters worse, as we tend to talk a lot. i'm not as close as i used to be wit a few others of my friends, which lately has started to weigh on me a bit. a friend of mine i used to be quite close to has moved cross-country. and a couple others, well, we've grown apart.
i hope i feel better after competition...
i hope i feel better after competition...
Sunday, July 19, 2009
deep down
"I wish I could believe in God god because I feel like I am missing out on a lot of potential happiness or comfort. Unfortunately, as good as it may make me feel in some ways, the part of me that I respect most is the part of me that won't allow me to believe."
- postsecret comment
- postsecret comment
Monday, July 6, 2009
for fun only?
i watched the hangover recently, which was a pretty damn funny movie. however, i'm worried about the message the movie unwittingly sends out.
in case you don't know, the movie is about four guy friends who go to vegas for a bachelor party of one of them. the "bachelor" is a nice guy, his soon-to-be bother-in-law is a weirdo, another friend is a married morally challanged "smart guy" who you can tell has gotten way wit tons stuff before, and the last friend is sort of straight laced who's is kept on a VERY short leash by his girlfriend (he tells her they're going to napa for the party, not vegas.). anyway, they're only supposed to spend one night in vegas before heading back to la for the day of preperations before wedding day. that night tho, they start it off with a round of shots from the weird guy's flask.
the next morning they wake up to find their hotel suite in shambles, with a tiger in the bathroom and a random don't-know-who's baby in the closet. they can't remember a thing from the night before. they're all missing brain and liver cells (one ended up in the hospital with broken ribs), one of them is missing a tooth but is married to an "escort," and they can't find the groom. antics ensue.
in the end, of course, everything comes up rosy. they find the groom, make $80k, don't end up in jail, make it to the wedding and ditch the controlling girlfriend. whew! to add icing on the cake, they find a camera that documents their "missing" night. apptly they found strippers, met various d-list celebrities, and in general looked like they had a whole lot of fun. yay!
...wtf? how can it possibly be all flowers and rainbows if you can't remember a fucking thing but ended up in the hospital and pulled out your own fucking tooth! you didn't actually have a fun time if you can't remember a moment of it. why doesn't the whole weekend scare the shit out of these people?! oh, right, because they got away with it all. they didn't end up in jail, you can always get a crown, and i'm sure no one came home wit vd. all of which would not happen in real life.
i understand that it's just a movie. and that most people understand that movies aren't real life. but come on. you're basically saying that it's okay to get drugged up and drink way too much and black out and not remember anything, because you're gonna have fun (that you can't remember), and you're gonna be okay, and everything will work itself out. no matter wat trouble you get yourself into while you're blacked out, you can talk yourself out of once you wake up. and imagine the stories you can tell!
while all the main players in the movie are male, imagine if this were a group of female friends. how much you wanna bet that in real life, at least one of them (if not all of them) would be raped, and likely, multiple times by multiple people. imagine even, that it was not real, and it was just a movie about four women who went to vegas for a bachlorette party and got drugged and drunk and did all things the boys did. do you think this movie would even make it past the idea pitching stage? no, of course not. because there are serious dangers for women who are blacked out. unlike for men. ...wait, no, that's not right either.
...get real, hollywood.
in case you don't know, the movie is about four guy friends who go to vegas for a bachelor party of one of them. the "bachelor" is a nice guy, his soon-to-be bother-in-law is a weirdo, another friend is a married morally challanged "smart guy" who you can tell has gotten way wit tons stuff before, and the last friend is sort of straight laced who's is kept on a VERY short leash by his girlfriend (he tells her they're going to napa for the party, not vegas.). anyway, they're only supposed to spend one night in vegas before heading back to la for the day of preperations before wedding day. that night tho, they start it off with a round of shots from the weird guy's flask.
the next morning they wake up to find their hotel suite in shambles, with a tiger in the bathroom and a random don't-know-who's baby in the closet. they can't remember a thing from the night before. they're all missing brain and liver cells (one ended up in the hospital with broken ribs), one of them is missing a tooth but is married to an "escort," and they can't find the groom. antics ensue.
in the end, of course, everything comes up rosy. they find the groom, make $80k, don't end up in jail, make it to the wedding and ditch the controlling girlfriend. whew! to add icing on the cake, they find a camera that documents their "missing" night. apptly they found strippers, met various d-list celebrities, and in general looked like they had a whole lot of fun. yay!
...wtf? how can it possibly be all flowers and rainbows if you can't remember a fucking thing but ended up in the hospital and pulled out your own fucking tooth! you didn't actually have a fun time if you can't remember a moment of it. why doesn't the whole weekend scare the shit out of these people?! oh, right, because they got away with it all. they didn't end up in jail, you can always get a crown, and i'm sure no one came home wit vd. all of which would not happen in real life.
i understand that it's just a movie. and that most people understand that movies aren't real life. but come on. you're basically saying that it's okay to get drugged up and drink way too much and black out and not remember anything, because you're gonna have fun (that you can't remember), and you're gonna be okay, and everything will work itself out. no matter wat trouble you get yourself into while you're blacked out, you can talk yourself out of once you wake up. and imagine the stories you can tell!
while all the main players in the movie are male, imagine if this were a group of female friends. how much you wanna bet that in real life, at least one of them (if not all of them) would be raped, and likely, multiple times by multiple people. imagine even, that it was not real, and it was just a movie about four women who went to vegas for a bachlorette party and got drugged and drunk and did all things the boys did. do you think this movie would even make it past the idea pitching stage? no, of course not. because there are serious dangers for women who are blacked out. unlike for men. ...wait, no, that's not right either.
...get real, hollywood.
Wednesday, July 1, 2009
yvr / sea
just returned from a great trip to vancouver / seattle. the main purpose of the trip was to compete in the rio tinto alcan dragon boat festival in vancouver wit space dragons. we flew up on a friday afternoon to get there in time for a team dinner wit our host team phat phish. saturday and sunday were tourney days. it was intermittently rainy, but not actually cold. there wasn't too much downtime, but the finish line set up was great, and there was a lot of good competition (space brought up 4 boats!). saturday night reep and i went to china town where we visited the night market and got some food. we ended up walking a few miles back to hotel which was a terrible idea cause our feets were killing us for the next few days. reep even needed to get a new pair of shoes!
on monday we went to whistler blackcomb. some of us had rented cars, so reep and i were pretty lucky to be able to add on last minute. unfortunately the zipline tour was already full so reep and i had to go separate of our team. but it was still a ton of fun. i loved it, as i love heights and speed, but i admit i did get scared when they told us we should go upside down and let go of the ropes. eck!
tuesday reep and i dedicated to sightseeing. we visited canada place, tandem biked around the perimeter and interior of stanley park, and saw the sights. it was a nice chill day. aj (also from our team) met up wit us on tuesday night.
wednesday we took a car back to whistler. reep and i had planned to go to vancouver island to kayak but the weather was really bad so we decided to kayak another time. aj recommended that we atv, which was a ton of fun. we all had little mishaps on the ride, but nothing serious. we also saw a black bear! reep and aj were gonna mountain bike (freaking awesome course, you and your bikes go up on ski lifts!), but they were too unprepared. one of the highlights was finding out that the luge course that they built for the 2010 winter olympics will be open to the public the year later. i'm so there!!
friday morning we got back to vancouver and reep and i got on a shuttle to seattle airport. we rented a car and promptly drove to the rei headquarters, which was kind of a bust. i was hoping they're have more paddling gear (not necessarily specific to dbing), but their section was even smaller than the one we have a home. =\ the climbing wall looked like a lot of fun but it's $20 a person and we'd have to wait a couple days! so reep and i skipped it.
on saturday we did sightseeing in seattle. we spent quite a bit of time at pike's place market. afterwards we went to the emp and sci-fi museum. we looked that the space needle but neither of us really felt like going up so we skipped it. that night reep went to play streetfighter. ...or tekken, i forget. i stayed home and slept.
sunday was pretty cool. we went kayaking around the san juan islands. we got a 2-person boat and totally smoked everyone else. hehe! reep was in charge of steering (which is apptly pretty hard to do, as you use your feet to adjust), and i was crazy paddling. reep kept telling me to slow it down and stop, which i was not happy about. lol. that evening we drove to mt st helens.
monday we went walking around mt st helens. i really wanted to do the upper portion of ape cave (it's a bit longer and more challenging), but we started it wrong and had to do it backwards. not recommended! funny tho. it was a mile to two to cave entrance above ground and i nearly quit. i hate hiking! but once we got underground i don't think i complained at all. not even when i slipped and ended up nearly flat on my back. i love spelunking (if you can call it that).
since we had a flight pretty early on tuesday reep and i decided to skip the hotel costs on monday night and instead drove down to portland to hit up voodoo donuts. from the little we saw, portland was pretty cool. "keep portland weird" is apptly the slogan. very young and definitely has a large counter-culture. must return!
all in all, great trip. quick fire impressions:
rio tinto alcan dragon boat festival is good for the specators, but organizers didn't really consider the athletes.
yvr is the best parts of sydney (friendly, clean) and nyc (the culture, cosmopolitain, polished) but all the latinos have been replaced by asians and a good many of the construction workers are female.
whistler is beautiful with a ton of activities, altho it has no night life.
seattle is like the worser parts of la (dirty and old) and sf (hilly and touristed out). =\ i'm really sorry to say this, but i've always loved seattle the times i've come before...
on monday we went to whistler blackcomb. some of us had rented cars, so reep and i were pretty lucky to be able to add on last minute. unfortunately the zipline tour was already full so reep and i had to go separate of our team. but it was still a ton of fun. i loved it, as i love heights and speed, but i admit i did get scared when they told us we should go upside down and let go of the ropes. eck!
tuesday reep and i dedicated to sightseeing. we visited canada place, tandem biked around the perimeter and interior of stanley park, and saw the sights. it was a nice chill day. aj (also from our team) met up wit us on tuesday night.
wednesday we took a car back to whistler. reep and i had planned to go to vancouver island to kayak but the weather was really bad so we decided to kayak another time. aj recommended that we atv, which was a ton of fun. we all had little mishaps on the ride, but nothing serious. we also saw a black bear! reep and aj were gonna mountain bike (freaking awesome course, you and your bikes go up on ski lifts!), but they were too unprepared. one of the highlights was finding out that the luge course that they built for the 2010 winter olympics will be open to the public the year later. i'm so there!!
friday morning we got back to vancouver and reep and i got on a shuttle to seattle airport. we rented a car and promptly drove to the rei headquarters, which was kind of a bust. i was hoping they're have more paddling gear (not necessarily specific to dbing), but their section was even smaller than the one we have a home. =\ the climbing wall looked like a lot of fun but it's $20 a person and we'd have to wait a couple days! so reep and i skipped it.
on saturday we did sightseeing in seattle. we spent quite a bit of time at pike's place market. afterwards we went to the emp and sci-fi museum. we looked that the space needle but neither of us really felt like going up so we skipped it. that night reep went to play streetfighter. ...or tekken, i forget. i stayed home and slept.
sunday was pretty cool. we went kayaking around the san juan islands. we got a 2-person boat and totally smoked everyone else. hehe! reep was in charge of steering (which is apptly pretty hard to do, as you use your feet to adjust), and i was crazy paddling. reep kept telling me to slow it down and stop, which i was not happy about. lol. that evening we drove to mt st helens.
monday we went walking around mt st helens. i really wanted to do the upper portion of ape cave (it's a bit longer and more challenging), but we started it wrong and had to do it backwards. not recommended! funny tho. it was a mile to two to cave entrance above ground and i nearly quit. i hate hiking! but once we got underground i don't think i complained at all. not even when i slipped and ended up nearly flat on my back. i love spelunking (if you can call it that).
since we had a flight pretty early on tuesday reep and i decided to skip the hotel costs on monday night and instead drove down to portland to hit up voodoo donuts. from the little we saw, portland was pretty cool. "keep portland weird" is apptly the slogan. very young and definitely has a large counter-culture. must return!
all in all, great trip. quick fire impressions:
rio tinto alcan dragon boat festival is good for the specators, but organizers didn't really consider the athletes.
yvr is the best parts of sydney (friendly, clean) and nyc (the culture, cosmopolitain, polished) but all the latinos have been replaced by asians and a good many of the construction workers are female.
whistler is beautiful with a ton of activities, altho it has no night life.
seattle is like the worser parts of la (dirty and old) and sf (hilly and touristed out). =\ i'm really sorry to say this, but i've always loved seattle the times i've come before...
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